Quotation Saturday: Dreams and Wishes

quotationsaturdayMamacita says: Dusty Springfield sang about Wishing and Hoping; Cinderella sang about A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes.

There’s something so uniquely wonderful about a favorite student who grows up and still wants to talk to you regularly.  I have a lot of these in my life, and I thank God daily for them.

This list is for them.

1.  If you can imagine it, you can create it.  If you can dream it, y ou can become it.  –William Arthur Ward

2.  Life is a cup to be filled, not drained.  –Unknown

3.  What we need is more people who specialize in the impossibhle.  –Theodore Roethke

4.  Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!  Live the life y ou’ve imagined.  As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.  –Henry David Thoreau

5.  Magic has often been thought of as the art of making dreams come true; the art of realizing visions.  Yet before we can bring birth to the vision we have to see it.  –Starhawk

6.  Your own words are the bricks and mortar of the dreams y ou want to realize.  Your words are the greatest power you have.  The words you choose and the use establish the life you experience.  –Sonia Croquette

7.  The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.  –Eleanor Roosevelt

8.  In bed my real love has always been the sleep that rescued me by allowing me to dream.  –Luigi Pirandello

9.  Dreams come true; without that possibility, nature would not incite us to have them.  –John Updike

10.  Empower your dreams with deadlines.  –H. Jackson Brown

11.  There are many ways of breaking a heart.  Stories were full of hearts being broken by love, but what really broke a heart was taking away its dream – whatever that dream might be.  –Pearl S. Buck

12.  In dreams begins responsibility.  –William Butler Yeats

13.  All the things one has forgotten scream for help in dreams.  –Elias Canetti

14.  Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he or she begins with some wild expectations.  –Ralph Charell

15.  I learned that there were two ways I could live my life:  following my dreams or doing something else.  Dreams aren’t a matter of chance, but a matter of choice.  When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.  –David Copperfield

16.  A lost but happy dream may shed its light upon our waking hours, and the whole day may be infected with the gloom of a dreary or sorrowful one; yet of neither may we be able to recover a trace.  –Walter de la Mare

17.  When a dream takes hold of you, what can you do?  You can run with it, let it run your life, or let it go and think for the rest of your life about what might have been.  –Patch Adams

18.  Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so ou shall become.  Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.  –James Allen

19.  Don’t be pushed by your problems.  Be led by your dreams.  –Unknown

20.  In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.  –Janos Arany

21.  The dream is real, my friends.  the failure to realize it is the only unreality.  –Toni Cade Bambara

22.  Dreams do come true, if we only wish hard enough.  You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.  –Sir James M. Barrie

23.  Dreams come in a size too big so that we may grow into them.  –Josie Bisset

24.  I’ve dreamt in my life dreams that have stayed with me ever after, and changed my ideas: they’ve gone through and through me, like wine through water, and altered the color of my mind.  –Emily Bronte

25.  Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.  –Joyce Brothers

26.  I dream; therefore I become.  –Cheryl Grossman

27.  We are not hypocrites in our sleep.  –William Hazlitt

28.  Dreaming is an act of pure imagination, attesting in all men a creative power which, if it were available in waking, would make every man a Dante or Shakespeare.  –H.F. Hedge

29.  All men of action are dreams.  –James G. Huneker

30.  Most people never run far enough on their first wind, to find out if they’ve got a second.  give your dreams all you’ve got, and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you.  –William James

31.  When we are dreaming alone, it is only a dream.  when we are dreaming with others, it is the beginning of reality.  –Dom Helder Camara

32.  The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust, and blocked trust is the reason for blighted dreams.  –Elizabeth Gilbert

33.  Some men see things as they are and say, “Why?”  But I dream things that never were, and I say, “Why not?”  –George Bernard Shaw (Bobby Kennedy wasn’t the first to say it.  He should have cited his source!)

34.  Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities.  Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.  –Gloria Steinem

35.  Every great dream begins with a dreamer.  Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.  –Harriet Tubman

36.  I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart so long.  If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.  –Hobbes  (yup, THAT Hobbes.)

37.  Like all dreams, I confuse disenchantment with truth.  –Jean-Paul Sartre

38.  Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.  –Charles William Dement

39.  There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.  –Douglas Everett

40.  Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do.  Don’t bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors.  Try to be better than yourself.  –William Faulkner

41.  I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge.  That myth is more potent than history.  I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts – that hope always triumphs over experience – that laughter is the only cure for grief.  And I believe that love is stronger than death.  –Robert Fulghum

42.  The most pitiful among men is he who turns his dreams into silver and gold.  –Kahlil Gibran

43.  If a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less but to dream more, to dream all the time.  –Marcel Proust

44.  Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.  So throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails  Explore.  Dream.  Discover.  –Mark Twain

45.  If growing up is the process of creating ideas and dreams about what life should be, then maturity is letting go again.  –Mary Beth Danielson

46.  There is nothing like a dream to create the future. Utopia to-day, flesh and blood tomorrow. –Victor Hugo

47.  Yet it is in our idleness, in our dreams, that the submerged truth sometimes comes to the top.  –Virginia Woolf

48.  Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself.  Go forward and make your dreams come true.  –Ralph Waldo Emerson

49.  A dream is an answer to a question we haven’t yet learned how to ask.  –Fox Mulder

50.  Your hopes, dreams, and aspirations are legitimate.  They are trying to take you airborne, above the clouds, above the storms, if you only let them.  –William James

51.  A goal is a dream with a deadline.  –Duke Ellington

52.  Dreams are wishes caste upon stars, so catch a shining one – take your friend’s hand, and hold on forever.  –Traci Brown

53.  Keep some souvenirs of your past, or how will you ever prove it wasn’t all a dream?  –Ashleigh Brilliant

54.  Dreams die hard, and you hold them in your hands long after they’ve turned to dust.  –from Dragonheart

55.  Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.  –William Dement

56.  Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.  Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.  –Mark Twain

57.  A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man contemplates it, bearing within him the image of a cathedral.  –Antoine de Saint-Exupery

58.  Dreams are renewable.  No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.  –Dale E. Turner

59.  There will always be dreams grander or humbler than your own, but there will never be a dream exactly like your own, for you are unique and more wondrous than you know.  –Linda Staten

60.  We are the music makers and we are the dreamers of dreams.  –Arthur O’Shaughnessy

61.  If you talk to your children, you can help them to keep their lives together.  If you talk to them skillfully, you can help them to build future dreams.  –Jim Rohn

62.  Dreams are great.  When they disappear you may still be here, but you will have ceased to live.  –Lady Nancy Astor

63.  When our memories outweigh our dreams, we have grown old.  –William J. Clinton

64.  Sometimes dreams alter the course of an entire life.  –Judith Duerk

65.  Dreams do not vanish, so long as people do not abandon them.  -P.F. Harlock

66.  I had a dream, and it landed right here in my hand.  —Robert Richard Toth

67.   In dreams begins responsibility.  William Butler Yeats

68. Dreams that do come true can be as unsettling as those that don’t. –Brett Butler

69. He felt that his whole life was some kind of dream and he sometimes wondered whose it was and whether they were enjoying it. –Douglas Adams

70. All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes, to make it possible –T.E. Lawrence

71. Dreams come true; without that possibility, nature would not incite us to have them. –John Updike

72. Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts. –Unknown

73. Dreams are illustrations from the book your soul is writing about you. — Marsha Norman

74. Dreams–a microscope through which we look at the hidden occurrences in our soul. –Erich Fromm

75. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much. –Unknown

Sweep Your Steps!!!

Sam Levinson, that wonderful hilarious writer who could tug on your heartstrings and tickle your funnybone with one sentence, said that his mother used to say, “If everybody swept their own front steps, the whole world would be clean.”
This can be taken literally, or it can be made into a very effective allegory; you pick one.  I’ve chosen both.
I do not, and will not ever, understand people who don’t keep their own front steps clean.  It’s not hard.  Think how beautiful the world would be if everybody kept their own front steps clean.  Think how it would look.  Think how it would SMELL – like beauty and goodness and conscientiousness and honesty and hard work and, well, like nice people.  Are there really people who don’t understand this concept?
It’s true that it can all seem impossible – that one’s environment has deteriorated to the point that individuals feel powerless to do anything about it, but that’s not true.  It isn’t true.  Every seemingly impossible thing in all of history has been accomplished by individuals who saw that it needed to be invented or discovered or simply just DONE, so they did it.
If everybody swept their own front steps, the whole world would be clean.  Absolute truth in a few simple words.
It’s about education, isn’t it.  It’s all about education.
By the way, if you haven’t read his books, run, RUN, for the bookstore.  You just can’t waste any more minutes not knowing them practically by heart.  Yes, they are that good.
“Everything But Money” (my favorite), “In One Era and Out the Other,” “You Don’t Have To Be In Who’s Who To Know What’s What” . . . Sam Levinson’s books are classically wonderful.  You’ll laugh out loud, and you’ll cry out loud, too.  Mostly, you will laugh.  I can’t recommend these books highly enough.
The books are old, OLD, and I don’t know if they are out of print or not.  However, they are all still available on Amazon; I just checked.
It’s too bad, isn’t it, that so many people in this world are perfectly content to live with dirty front steps.  I wonder why that is. . . . .
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Dear Teen Girls: You Will Grow Into Women, Not Toothpicks!

Mamacita says:  Little wonder that our students are so confused about what they’re “supposed” to look like. Teen magazines that used to give us ADVICE about our appearance are now telling kids that unless they look like (insert talentless celebrity here), they’re hideous. AND, many kids have no home backup to instill some self-respect and common sense, so they believe this stuff.

Trends come and trends go. Rubenesque women used to be the epitome of feminine beauty. Adult women built like eleven-year-olds (Twiggy) were popular. Breasts are flattened by a board placed strategically under the underwear and tied into place. Breasts are bigger. Breasts are pointy. Breasts are smaller. Hems are high. Hems are low. A waistline is hidden. A waistline is enhanced by a corset so tight a woman can’t even put it on by herself; she needs a winch fastened to the bedpost, later spelled wench and transformed into a person. How empowering it must have been, for women to finally get clothing they could put on all by themselves!

Now, supermodels are built like concentration camp prisoners, and the walk down the runway looks a lot like the walk to the Belsen showerhouse.* These women look like a sneeze would blast them backwards like a bullet from a gun.

(You know, Victorian men must not have seen very many naked women; otherwise, why and how could a man have possibly believed women were supposed to look like a wasp?)

There were fancy schools in Victorian England that had a rule that each young woman must have a 17-inch waist, just like Scarlett O’Hara.

It wasn’t just in England, either. Laura Ingalls Wilder (one of my many literary idols) writes that her mother reminisced to her daughters about how, when she was married, her husband could span her waist with his hands. This, while advising her daughters to wear their corsets even while sleeping or “. . . what your figure will be, goodness knows.”

Mothers nowadays dress their small daughters in clothes that a high-class prostitute wouldn’t be caught dead in. I am, more and more, thinking that school uniforms might not be such a bad idea.

At the turn of the century, schoolgirls wore pinafores over their dresses to help keep the dress clean, but also to hide the curves and allow the girls to be children a little longer. Remember Anne Shirley, Diana Barry, Jane Andrews, and Ruby Gillis? (Oh, I hope you do!) Emily Starr? Marigold Lesley? Pat Gardiner? They all wore pinafores to school every day, and after school, too. When the pinafores were removed for parties, etc, these girls looked like young women, but because they were still girls, really, the pinafores were worn all other times. Anne Frank, at 13 or 14, still referred to herself and to Peter VanDaan, who was 16 or 17, as “children.”

Big booty used to be all the rage, and emphasized with bustles. Now, a big butt is a sign of sloppiness and obesity, and whether or not her butt looks big is something most women worry about daily. Fear of a butt that’s large enough to actually sit on comfortably sends otherwise sane and intelligent women to the liposuction clinic to get all that sucked out, that they might be “beautiful.” Balancing precariously on a protruding tailbone doesn’t seem either attractive or comfortable, but that’s how supermodels have to sit these days because they traded their cheeks for a check.

Tiny feet were a symbol of rank. High-born Chinese women suffered intense pain all their lives, and had to be carried because they could not walk normally on the new-born-size buds that were what had become of their feet. Women used to lie about their shoe size, because small feet were, and still are to some people, a sign of beauty. Now, a woman who wears size eleven or twelve shoes isn’t the exception at all.

Hands were to be kept soft at all costs. Soft, smooth hands indicated servants to do all the work, which indicated money, which indicated good marriage fodder.

There are so many silly interpretations of beauty that I could never go into them all in one post. Besides, I don’t want to.

Clean, kind, honest, ethical, intelligent, humorous, witty, and brave. What outside feature could possibly outrank that? I suppose really shallow people would disagree, and I have a hard time overlooking my own, shall we say, “shortcomings” in the beauty arena, but truth be told, beauty fades and these other qualities are merely enhanced.

Oh, and while it may be true that the old standards of feminine beauty were set by men, I honestly believe that now, women set the standards for beauty. I also believe that women are not very nice to each other when it comes to what’s “beautiful” this week, and what’s “passe.”

Remember Marilyn Monroe? Remember how beautiful she was? Size 12. Elizabeth Hurley has been quoted as saying, “I’d kill myself if I was that fat. . . she was very big.”

I’m not finished yet. I also believe that we women need to start pointing and laughing at 79-pound toothpicks sashaying down the fashion aisle in between bouts of rehab, instead of throwing our money at them and their keepers: the jokers who get rich because somewhere, a woman spends a hundred thousand dollars on a half-yard of fabric, two safety pins, a button, a necklace made of real diamonds that looks like it was strung by an Alzheimer patient on the front porch of a nursing home, assisted by a four-year-old, a hat made of 19 cents worth of purple felt, a feather, and an old rusty key, and shoes consisting of a paper-thin sole, a ten-inch heel, and a single clear plastic strap across the top, in which one cannot walk. As long as there are women who will buy this hideous, overpriced scheisse and wear it, there will be women who pretend to believe that it’s beautiful.

What we need is someone to stand up and say, “The Emperor is naked.” Because, my friends, he is.

*I am NOT being disrespectful here. I am being descriptive. It’s a visual thing.

 

I Am Mamacita

Mamacita says:  I have been Mamacita for many years online.  One’s online presence is of utmost importance, and the names we have chosen as representations of ourselves are equally important, as people associate the name with the person or business.

When newbies decide to go online, with a business or a blog or simply as a social media presence on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, etc, it is very important that they choose their online names carefully.  If the name they choose to go by is their own name, that is fine; that is not what I am talking about here.  There are coincidences of actual names all the time.

It is when someone chooses a pseudonym for their online presence –  that requires careful consideration.

Those of us who have maintained an online presence for a long time are known by certain names, so if someone is new and wishes to use a certain name, it is vital that the newbie do some research to make sure they are not intruding into someone else’s established online presence.

I have recently discovered that several newbies have decided to make themselves known as “Mamacita,” which has been ME for twelve years.  I am getting their messages and am being associated with them, which I do not appreciate.  Since this is happening to me, I can only assume it is also happening to them, and I do not want clients and friends to mistake me for them or them for me in any way, shape, or form.

I Am Mamacita.   I.  Me.  Jane Goodwin.  I am Mamacita.  And you are not.

I Am Mamacita. I. Me. Jane Goodwin. I am Mamacita. And you are not.

We who have established specific and long-term internet names and presences are happy to welcome newbies to the blogosphere, but quite frankly, we do resent it when a new blogger or new entrepreneur decides to use a name that is already established online as belonging to a certain person or business.  This is unethical.  It is the equivalent of a person deciding to be “Macy’s” or “Kroger’s” because they like the sound of it or, and this is decidedly unethical, because they hope to get a piece of the action from an established name.  For that, they could be and probably would be sued, but when someone chooses to be known as a name already established by an online person who has been writing and doing business as that name for many years, what can we do?

Please, newbies.  Do some research before you go public with a chosen name.  Deciding that you want to use a certain name because you like it is not a good enough reason.  Find out if the name is free to be used.  Find out, before you decide YOU are going to be that person, if the name already belongs to a person.

Just deciding to blog under a name you like isn’t enough now.  Online names belong to people.  Choose one that isn’t already taken.  Deciding on a name because you like it, period, without finding out if it’s already established as belonging to someone else, labels you a beginner with no idea of how this internet/blogging stuff is actually done.

Please.  Don’t be that guy.

P.S.  The woman who is trying to establish herself as Mamacita – you with the cooking/homemaking/parenting/recipe blog – yeah, I’m talking to you – please change your persona.  I’m tired of getting your messages.

Quotation Saturday: Mothers

Mamacita says:  This is the weekend when we celebrate mothers.  This cannot be done with two or three sentences.

Mother and daughter, shoes

1.The phrase “working mother” is redundant. ~Jane Sellman

2. The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~Rajneesh

3. I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. ~Abraham Lincoln

prying mother

4. A mother is a person who, seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan

last piece of pie

5. The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. ~Honoré de Balzac

6. He is a poor son whose sonship does not make him desire to serve all men’s mothers. ~Harry Emerson Fosdick

7. An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy. ~Spanish Proverb

Charles W. Bartlett, Hawaiian Mother and Child

Charles W. Bartlett, Hawaiian Mother and Child

8. My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon

9. Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease. ~Lisa Alther

10. Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing. ~Toni Morrison, Beloved

11. The only mothers it is safe to forget on Mother’s Day are the good ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin

Mother and Child, by Gustav Klimt

Mother and Child, by Gustav Klimt

12. A mom forgives us all our faults, not to mention one or two we don’t even have. ~Robert Brault

13. One good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters. ~George Herbert

14. Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children. ~William Makepeace Thackeray

15. Every beetle is a gazelle in the eyes of its mother. ~Moorish Proverb

16. All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother. ~Abraham Lincoln

Mother and baby giraffe

17. No one in the world can take the place of your mother. Right or wrong, from her viewpoint you are always right. She may scold you for little things, but never for the big ones. ~Harry Truman

18. God could not be everywhere, so He created mothers. ~Jewish Proverb

19. Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. ~Oprah Winfrey

20. I regard no man as poor who has a godly mother. ~ Abraham Lincoln

21. The mother loves her child most divinely not when she surrounds him with comforts and anticipates his wants, but when she resolutely holds him to the highest standards and is content with nothing less than his best. ~ Hamilton Wright Mabie

22. The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world. ~ William Ross Wallace

Mother and baby

23. There never was a woman like her. She was gentle as a dove and brave as a lioness… The memory of my mother and her teachings were, after all, the only capital I had to start life with, and on that capital I have made my way. ~ Andrew Jackson

24. Who is getting more pleasure from this rocking, the baby or me? ~ Nancy Thayer

25. No matter how old a mother is, she watches her middle-aged children for signs of improvement. ~ Florida Scott-Maxwell

26. Sometimes when I look at all my children, I say to myself, ‘Lillian, you should have stayed a virgin.'” ~ Lillian Carter

27. And so our mothers and grandmothers have, more often than not anonymously, handed on the creative spark, the seed of the flower they themselves never hoped to see — or like a sealed letter they could not plainly read. ~ Alice Walker

28. Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women’s opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering. ~ Elaine Heffner

Vietnamese mother and child

29. If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much. ~ Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

30. I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love and duty but as a profession that was fully as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best I could bring to it. ~ Rose Kennedy

31. A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. ~ Dorothy Canfield Fisher

32. She was the archetypal selfless mother: living only for her children, sheltering them from the consequences of their actions — and in the end doing them irreparable harm. ~ Marcia Muller

33. Spend at least one Mother’s Day with your respective mothers before you decide on marriage. If a man gives his mother a gift certificate for a flu shot, dump him. ~ Erma Bombeck

Lioness and cub

34. No one ever died from sleeping in an unmade bed. I have known mothers who remake the bed after their children do it because there’s a wrinkle in the spread or the blanket is on crooked. This is sick. ~ Erma Bombeck

35. Becoming a mother makes you the mother of all children. From now on each wounded, abandoned, frightened child is yours. You live in the suffering mothers of every race and creed and weep with them. You long to comfort all who are desolate. ~ Charlotte Gray

36. Giving kids clothes and food is one of thing, but it’s much more important to teach them that other people besides themselves are important and that the best thing they can do with their lives is to use them in the service of other people. ~ Dolores Huerta

37. Blaming mother is just a negative way of clinging to her still. ~ Nancy Friday

38. I love people. I love my family, my children . . . but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up. ~ Pearl S. Buck

39. The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. ~ Father Theodore Hesburgh

mother-and-child

40. When, however, one reads of a witch being ducked, of a woman possessed by devils, of a wise woman selling herbs, or even a very remarkable man who had a mother, then I think we are on the track of a lost novelist, a suppressed poet. . . indeed, I would venture to guess that Anon, who wrote so many poems without signing them, was often a woman. ~ Virginia Woolf

41. A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path. ~ Agatha Christie

42. You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your grandmother. ~ Albert Einstein

43. If there were no schools to take the children away from home part of the time, the insane asylum would be filled with mothers. ~ Edgar Watson Howe

44. What the mother sings to the cradle goes all the way down to the coffin. ~ Henry Ward Beecher

45. My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it. ~ Mark Twain

Botswana mother and child

46. Over the years I have learned that motherhood is much like an austere religious order, the joining of which obligates one to relinquish all claims to personal possessions. ~ Nancy Stahl

47. There never was a child so lovely but his mother was glad to get him asleep ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

48. At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you’ve left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent. ~ Golda Meir

Mother and several children

49. A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take. ~ Cardinal Mermilod

50. A mother’s yearning feels the presence of the cherished child even in the degraded man. ~ George Eliot

51. There are lots of things that you can brush under the carpet about yourself until you’re faced with somebody whose needs won’t be put off. ~ Angela Carter

migrant mother

52. Isidor Isaac Rabi’s mother used to ask him, upon his return from school each day, “Did you ask any good questions today, Isaac?” ~ Steve Chandler

53. Sometimes the poorest woman leaves her children the richest inheritance. ~ Ruth E. Renkel

54. Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible. ~ Marion C. Garretty

55. A mother is never cocky or proud, because she knows the school principal may call at any minute to report that her child has just driven a motorcycle through the gymnasium. ~ Mary Kay Blakeley

56. It would seem that something which means poverty, disorder and violence every single day should be avoided entirely, but the desire to beget children is a natural urge. ~ Phyllis Diller

Renoir, Mother and Child

57. Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn’t have anything to do with it. ~ Haim Ginott

58. If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. ~ Abigail Van Buren

silhouette59. Making a decision to have a child–it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~ Elizabeth Stone

60. If you want your child to be brilliant, tell them fairy tales. If you want your child to be very brilliant, tell them even more fairy tales. ~ Albert Einstein

Meerkat mother and baby

Grammar Queen that I am – terrifyingly so, in fact, so watch your step – I absolutely love this cartoon:

william-haefeli, I have two mommies

Bonus quotations:

61.  Motherhood: All love begins and ends there. — Robert Browning

62  It’s a funny thing about mothers and fathers. Even when their own child is the most disgusting little blister you could ever imagine, they still think that he or she is wonderful. — Roald Dahl

63.. When you’re in the thick of raising your kids by yourself, you tend to keep a running list of everything you think you’re doing wrong. I recommend taking a lot of family pictures as evidence to the contrary. — Connie Schultz

64.  Kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run. — Barbara Kingsolver

65.  Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation. — Robert A. Heinlein

66.  My mother said to me, “If you are a soldier, you will become a general.  If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.”  Instead, i was a painter, and became Picasso. — Pablo Picasso

Mother and Child, Picasso, 1901

Mother and Child, Picasso, 1901

P.S. What’s that she’s saying? She needs to FIND HERSELF? “Find herself” my Aunt Fanny. Grow a pair, and be a parent to your child. He’ll have pals his own age. YOU can “find yourself” after your job is done.

P.P.S. Does anybody else love it when, out in public, a child says “Mama?” and forty women instinctively turn their heads?

 

Dirty Little Secrets

Dirty little secrets must not be revealed.

Mamacita says:   Headline news – More dirty little secrets:  yet another coach in this community has been dismissed. No details available to save the reputations of the two or three elitist families who complained that their special snowflakes weren’t given the preferential and gentle treatment they deserved.

I don’t know about you, but whenever I encounter anything like this, I am immediately suspicious of those who forbid the discussion. Those who whined are suspect, naturally, but it is those who allowed whiny people’s wishes to trump the truth and then forbid all discussion who are the real bad people here. The real bad people, and the really bad people. Grammar nerds like me will recognize the difference there. The point is, decent people don’t do things like this.  Decent people encourage open discussion, and the more the better.

What are they afraid of, anyway? The truth? I think that’s exactly what they’re afraid of: a truth that would prove them in the wrong.

"I want more playing time, Daddy! Make the mean coach stop telling me what to doooo, Daddy!"

“I want more playing time, Daddy! Make the mean coach stop telling me what to doooo, Daddy!”  Very well, darling, you shall get your way in this as you do in all other things.  Daddy and Mummy will make the mean man go away.

This community routinely discards its coaches, teachers, students. . . hard-working people in all walks, and inevitably the powers-that-be will forbid any discussion concerning the circumstances, whys, or wherefores, of the decision.  Not merely content to discourage, they will FORBID.

Everybody’s in the dark, and in the dark, there be monsters, and the biggest and most dangerous monsters there be, be rumor and innuendo.

The motto of this community's school board.

The motto of this community’s school board.

With some open discussion, rumor and innuendo would be banished. It’s almost as if the powers-that-be WANT rampant rumor and innuendo, to divert the people’s attention away from what is really happening. . . .

Oh, surely not.

Oh, surely ’tis so.

This town is famous for it. This town does it all the time. They do it to decent, winning coaches. They do it to creative, successful, and excellent teachers.

This town does it all the time. It’s their thang. We are run by a select group of people who demand and get their way in pretty much everything.  The pockets of our administrators and boards are full of people with money who also control the puppet strings that are fastened to the document-signing hands and also the hearts, souls, and mouths of most of our trusted elected officials.  I love my town, but much of it is a joke.  This breaks my hearts.  I love my town, and I trust almost nobody who is in charge of anything here.

I have lived here all my life.  I love it.  I want my town to be clean and successful and to encourage education and progress and creativity and above all, to be honest and absolutely above reproach in everything that is done here.

But. . . .

The same people are in charge of everything here.  Horrible things happen to those who speak out, or who refuse to pander to somebody’s pouty kid or wealthy parent.

But shhhhh, we can’t discuss it. It’s forbidden.